Every Spring Equinox, World Doula Day & Week blasts through social media with awareness of birth doulas. Began by Ruti Karni Horowitz, it is a time of recognizing fertility and is globally considered an appropriate time to recognize birth doulas.
But as stillbirthday doulas, we recognize that birth support is just as important, just as real, as our bereavement support. And so with the waning sun we set the autumnal equinox as an equally appropriate time to recognize infertility, bereavement and loss.
And all professionals and families impacted by bereavement are invited to participate.
You can check back here to see what events or opportunities we’ll have as we near each annual autumnal equinox.
Why we chose “farewell”
Why didn’t we just choose “bereavement doula day” for the autumnal equinox? Because we want to include anyone who serves others in their season of entering bereavement. The “birth & bereavement doula” is a term that is federally registered to stillbirthday, and in fact, stillbirthday is the federally approved regulator of the work of the birth & bereavement doula. Not everyone who supports others in the season of bereavement is a bereavement doula by our standards. Some use words like “loss” or “grief” or other related terminology.
Stillbirthday sets the bar by networking with the very best resources in providing support, advocacy, training and mentoring in entering into the season of maidenhood, throughout motherhood of all seasons and stories, entering into the season of menopause and matriarchy and, through any journey of bereavement and healing.
We don’t want to use terminology that would confuse or give the idea that we are supporting an individual’s use of the terminology who is not actually certified through stillbirthday — in fact, though we have a strong “non-compete” structure in our program, there has been the occasional rogue individual who counterfeits our program and tries to accrue status on our coattails. Unfortunate, right?
So “Farewell Doula Day” is a day to honor anyone who supports in that transition of grief. But it’s not individual-centered. “Farewell” is a celebration of its own right, it is recognition of departure and of an evolving relationship.